tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7774038240425612964.post1421140346709669333..comments2023-05-03T05:42:25.845-07:00Comments on Birthmothers For Adoption: Questions are Answered! Q # 14Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7774038240425612964.post-13530187884604172852011-01-02T19:02:51.519-08:002011-01-02T19:02:51.519-08:00I dont know what to tell you since i have only gav...I dont know what to tell you since i have only gave my little girl up 3 months ago but i have a wonderful relationship with her family and its open. But teh thing is she is sick and has to get heart surgery and now this where im starting to feel it. i think it may go away the feeling to some assent but wont completely ever go away. i hope it get better for all of us. I get to see her when she has it and i am glad that may put me at some easejessi1https://www.blogger.com/profile/14935140808431923046noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7774038240425612964.post-91322936178025967922010-12-30T08:31:22.650-08:002010-12-30T08:31:22.650-08:0014. does the hurt and pain ever go away? maybe w...14. does the hurt and pain ever go away? maybe when they turn 18 and the aparents cant keep you from them anymore?<br /><br />Almost 18 years into it.... it doesn't go away. It changes by the year. Some years are hard, some years are easy. I smile when I see comments that say after 2 years it doesn't hurt anymore or after 5 years it doesn't hurt anymore. <br />I had years like that where I thought I was done and I had mourned enough, but as time passes I find I am wrong. <br />Out of no where comes a wave of uncontrollable grief and it is the next stage in working through loss. <br />The mind is an amazing thing. It allows you to work through the grief one part at a time, maybe even as you are ready (although you don't always feel ready initially)<br />When they turn 18? I don't know, but I had a moment of hope yesterday when I woke up and realized she will be 18 in 4 1/2 months. In 2011 she could request the info from the file I have left there for her.Maryannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09879063755298409516noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7774038240425612964.post-46533622101006263652010-12-30T08:17:24.479-08:002010-12-30T08:17:24.479-08:0014. does the hurt and pain ever go away? maybe whe...14. does the hurt and pain ever go away? maybe when they turn 18 and the aparents cant keep you from them any more? <br /><br />No, it doesn't ever go away. You just learn to cope with the feelings. I'm able to move on with my life, and function as a normal person again but my heart was broken when I had to place my daugther, and it will never fully heal. I don't cry as often, and I don't feel depressed as often as I did 7.5 years ago, but it still hurts.Bean Sproutshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01879337760767096232noreply@blogger.com