tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7774038240425612964.post7067679668785249253..comments2023-05-03T05:42:25.845-07:00Comments on Birthmothers For Adoption: QUESTIONS are ANSWERED!! Q # 5Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7774038240425612964.post-51149221396036532352010-01-17T03:28:45.732-08:002010-01-17T03:28:45.732-08:00deborah - thats funny, cuz i cant even imagine lea...deborah - thats funny, cuz i cant even imagine leaving the hospital with the baby! lol<br /><br />sentimentally, it was so imperatively important that i walk out those doors ready to embrace 'the rest of my life' without the baby. it was very healing for me, and the others ive worked with, to have placement 48 hours after the birth when discharged from the hospital. even driving to an office or church building holds a psychosocial attachment to a life outside of the hospital with the child. it was so nice to leave everything behind me in that hospital chapel room, i got to leave when i was ready to and move forward, literally, to walk the road that was to be MY life. emotionally, it was the best scenario. does that even make sense?! lol<br /><br />of course to each her own and a perfect example of what works for one birthmom may not be the answer for another!birthMOMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11479996077788889914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7774038240425612964.post-8370075756764756232010-01-15T05:39:30.965-08:002010-01-15T05:39:30.965-08:00I think that it should be mandatory for the girls ...I think that it should be mandatory for the girls to have a few days with the baby before placing, I am devastated that women have had to leave the hospitals empty-handed.....I can't even IMAGINE! The agency I placed with allowed the girls a few days alone at home with the baby before placing, I found this to be very healing for most of the girls. Obviously that wasn't the situation for me, but if I had to of placed the DAY or day after I gave birth , it would have been MUCH harder.debs lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12652128924655352504noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7774038240425612964.post-56094598485701737492010-01-14T23:06:25.753-08:002010-01-14T23:06:25.753-08:00absolutely i was prepared!
and it was perfect, it...absolutely i was prepared! <br />and it was perfect, it was just what i wanted, a happy joyous beautiful celebration of new life new love and new beginnings. <br /><br />i had heard horror story after horror story growing up about how heart wrenching heartbreaking and traumatic relinquishment/placement was. i didnt want that. i didnt want everyone bawling about how sad they were over this, i didnt want the acouple feeling bad about everyone bawling, i didnt want them to feel torn btwn their joy and my pain. so i forbade EVERYONE from crying, no one was allowed to cry (except me, as it was my placement, and i did a lil) i thought long and hard about the sentiments i wanted shared at placement, i planned a 'lil ceremony', i planned special outfits for me and babe. <br /><br />i felt like no one died here, there was nothing to mourn, this was a happy time, this is what i had worked for the last 9 months to create, this moment was to be only celebrated. and it was! and it was fabulous. <br /><br />the first year went by entirely way too fast, funny how that keeps happening the older i get. the power of positive thinking will take you far in life if you let it.birthMOMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11479996077788889914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7774038240425612964.post-56188365540033391102010-01-14T20:09:40.182-08:002010-01-14T20:09:40.182-08:00Wow... so many different feelings to consider. Th...Wow... so many different feelings to consider. Thank you for sharing those sacred feelings. I think I will try really hard to let our birth mother know We are here... especially on the placement day. If she wants to call in the middle of the night or needs a hug or a visit right away. I hope I can be strong for her. My heart goes out to all of you and what you all felt so deeply. Thank you again for sharing.Karinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17154884929715917363noreply@blogger.com