Why do you advocate adoption? Is it because you think you will be a scandal and bad example to your 'illegitimate' child? Or do you think you are too poor? Or do you think you are too uneducated? Or do you think you should not parent without a husband? I would love to know what is so good about being a 'birthmother', whatever that is. There is no such thing as a birthmother, in fact. The ***person*** who gives the child birth is its mother. What kind of a mother, is the vital question. Is she an abandoner? Is she lacking capacity?
My answer for this is far too long for facebook.
It never ceases to amaze me when i get called an abandoner. Or when my love for my sweet birthdaughter is questioned.
To answer your questions
I wasn't afraid of being a bad example.
I did feel I was poor, but that is not why I placed.
I was/am uneducated, but hat is not why I placed.
I did feel very strongly I shouldn't parent without a husband, that is not why I placed.
I placed because I knew with every fiber of my being. With every bit of my soul. That the baby I was carrying inside of my womb was meant for so much more. That she deserved so much more.
If you want to know more about how I feel you can read this post
To answer your second set of questions:
What is so great about being a birthmother? Oh where do I even begin? So much is great about it. Yes, at times it is filled with great sorrow, hardship, and tears. But 99 percent of the time for me it is filled with so much more.
I get to see my beautiful and ever so talented birthdaughter grow up with two parents. I get to see her have pets. . . oh the pets ... pet pigs, dogs, and sheep. I get to hear of her adventures. I get to witness her growth. I get to hear her speak, hear her laugh, and i get to hear her ask silly questions. I get to see her grow an understanding of where she came from, and who she came from. I have seen a family become complete.
As a birthmother I have met many many others in similar situations. I have heard many other success stories. I have made life long friends. I have learned of the hardships of infertility. I have learned of the joys of placing. I have found God's love for myself.
A birthmother is not lacking in capacity. It is quite the opposite. A birthmother is booming with capacity. So much so she was willing to do what was best for her child. A birthmother has so much strength she was able to do one of the hardest things one can do.
My child was not abandoned. She was not cast to the side like an unwanted object. She was carefully placed into a loving home with a prayer and a blessing. Everytime i see her I have a reaffirmation that what I did was right. And nobody can change that.